tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5373083364102062158.post7692023354386646456..comments2020-02-28T12:51:57.358-05:00Comments on CarlaVista: Yelling is the New SpankingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5373083364102062158.post-6357588800192144602009-11-09T10:15:24.002-05:002009-11-09T10:15:24.002-05:00Thank you, everyone, for your very interesting com...Thank you, everyone, for your very interesting comments and insights! I love to read your perspectives as they bring another dimension to the subject matter. Please keep them coming!Carla Sandrinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083195723601351194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5373083364102062158.post-25883992576088140792009-11-06T21:16:49.351-05:002009-11-06T21:16:49.351-05:00I grew up with a father who was always yelling and...I grew up with a father who was always yelling and I hated it. I ended up marrying a man who never raises his voice. My father could have used some restraint and my husband could stand to let out some emotion once and a while, so I think the happy medium would be somewhere in between as neither extreme seems healthy to me. I always found a slightly raised tone got my daughter's attention without bringing down the roof like my dad used to. She hasn't demonstrated any ill effects, but she still knows when I mean business!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08825963892581033191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5373083364102062158.post-84409728451901496062009-11-02T22:27:09.945-05:002009-11-02T22:27:09.945-05:00If yelling is the new spanking then what do they c...If yelling is the new spanking then what do they call what sarcasm is. It seems to be the the most popular form of communication with many people these days. I would take yelling any day of the week over sarcasm.Lorrainenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5373083364102062158.post-77495339448779346202009-10-30T10:19:12.259-04:002009-10-30T10:19:12.259-04:00Couldn't help but post a comment to this one, ...Couldn't help but post a comment to this one, Carla! When I am frustrated or angry, I yell, and I think the victims of my vocal outbursts generally find it is justified - let's say they at least know why I am yelling. I often wish I could use the very low decibel and eye contact method. But just like there are hearty laughers and quiet gigglers, I think yelling might be in a personality trait - not sure it can be changed, just like you can't change how you laugh.....so maybe prevent situations that make you yell by trying to see the humor in them and instead laugh. Hmmmmm - Good luck with that!Sylvianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5373083364102062158.post-75862050221931263252009-10-29T14:20:31.602-04:002009-10-29T14:20:31.602-04:00Food for thought. Your piece inspired me to look u...Food for thought. Your piece inspired me to look up the New York Times article. I will definitely try to think twice before I yell at the kids! <br />TrishTrish Feehannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5373083364102062158.post-18083897336943813102009-10-27T20:19:01.162-04:002009-10-27T20:19:01.162-04:00I just couldn't resist a cpomment to your most...I just couldn't resist a cpomment to your most recent message about yelling. I have come across many yellers in my three careers. I am actually not one of them. I seldom raise my voice. When I was teaching nursery school I found the most effective way to get compliance from the children was to make eye contact with them, then lower my voice by several decibels and the calming, almost threatening effect was usually quite stunning. <br /><br />No right and wrong way.<br /><br />JudithJudithnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5373083364102062158.post-27352422193340973142009-10-26T13:26:43.429-04:002009-10-26T13:26:43.429-04:00Hurray for normal families who freely vent, let of...Hurray for normal families who freely vent, let off steam, air grievances and don't put on a sugary front...all done in a safe and accepting environment! If we have no safe haven in which to let down our guard, then we hold it all in, far less healthy in my opinion. I think we European families have a noisy but effective way of letting it out, and then moving on. My British family is much the same, at least it was when we all lived close enough to each other to actually yell!Alisonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5373083364102062158.post-8696538956524928352009-10-25T15:54:01.178-04:002009-10-25T15:54:01.178-04:00Like someone noted in a comment on another topic, ...Like someone noted in a comment on another topic, you are always so elegant. It's hard to imagine you screaming! But sometimes our families bring out the worst in us. Great story about changing the rabbit's litter box. I think we've all been there with our kids!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01681732058311386672noreply@blogger.com